Defaults. What you do automatically are basically your default. What do you do when you wake up early in the morning? Just curse yourself for getting late? Then that is your default. How about the first app you start when you get your hands on your phone? YouTube? then that is your default. How about the first thing you say when you meet your loved ones in your kitchen in the morning? That is your default too. Defaults are powerful when properly planned and placed, but they can be devastating, like corrosion on a knife, when unplanned and more disastrously let others decide your own defaults. Are they habits? Of course you can call them habits. But I would consider them at the end of a spectrum. The difference between them is subtle. One is heavily dependent on willpower and repetition, while defaults are by design, and control of the environment, fixed, not needed repetition. Habits <----> defaults. By definition defaults are things which happen when you do not deliberately choose. But repeated enough they can end up habits. And habits on the other hand if repeated enough would need less and less of willpower and can become default. If you already know what you're going to have on Monday night dinner, that is a default. But if you try to eat healthy food but do not yet know what it is, you can make it a habit. Defaults create less pressure when you are paralyzed by choice. Remember analysis paralysis? Defaults is the solution. Healthy bowl of Nuts. :https://unsplash.com/@abhishek_hajare Defaults do not need repetition. Not even thought. It is set by design in the system, already chosen for you. How I used defaults. When I was living alone briefly for a period of time, I developed my own defaults. I would go to a same shop on fixed dates and have same meals. It creates less friction and gives room for more important creative space for the mind, away from the clutter. How boring it is to go to a supermarket and compare the prices, of items from an aisle to aisle, getting paralyzed every day. Defaults and rituals will easily prevent the cognitive exhaustion. Defaults can not only be used for meal plans, but they can also be used anywhere anytime when there are things you routinely do. At the end of this article, I will give you a list of defaults you can use in common situations you face in everyday life. At least few of them will make sense to you. Beware of your default responses to emotions. More powerful is default responses of us to our emotions. What do you do when you are feeling, anger? Sadness? Loneliness? Success? As these are recurring themes of any life what we do triggered by these emotions matter a lot, when it comes to feeling good in life. As such, two people can differ markedly in their defaults when responding to anger. One can escalate their own anger, with filthy words, while other can just take a walk and reflect on him/herself making it an opportunity for improvement. But the basic feeling of anger remains same in these two individuals. The importance is you can plan your default behavior while you are calm sitting in your chair thinking. So, let's look through a list of items you can make defaults. Situation Common default Alternative conscious choice 🌅 Waking up Reach for the phone Phone on table when going to sleep Sit quietly for 2 minutes ☕ Morning Make the same drink Drink water first 📱 Notification Check immediately silent notifications for 6 hours per day. 🍽️ Hunger Eat whatever is easiest Eat an apple/ fruit per day 🚗 Driving Take the usual route Take a bus, same time 💬 Someone criticizes you Defend yourself Sing your favorite song 😡 Anger React immediately Sing your second favorite song 😴 Tiredness Scroll social media Wash your face, and read a book 💰 Receiving money Spend it normally automate investment 🛒 Shopping Buy what catches your attention Make a default grocery list. 🧹 Messy room Ignore it Keep one thing square. One trash away. 💻 Starting work Check email/social media Start the most important task 🧠 Difficult problem Avoid it Spend 5 minutes attempting it 📺 Free time Open YouTube/Netflix Write down your thoughts 🗣️ Conversation Talk about yourself Ask the other person a question 🚶 Walking Look at your phone Look at the sky and make a mental comment 🌙 Before sleep Keep scrolling Put the phone away 2 hours before. ❓ Uncertainty Assume an answer put it in a commonplace book ⚠️ Making a mistake Hide/explain it Buy yourself a treat. 🏆 Success Move immediately to the next goal Pause and appreciate it

Why you should be prepared to be a fool. Be a fool every day. Success is not about straight path. Everybody has a theory to how to be successful, yet only a handful of them from a thousand would ever reach enough success to fulfil their dreams. What is the difference between these people and ordinary? You may think talent, luck or intrinsic generousness. But it is not just about luck. It's the ability to experiment, the willingness to take foolish risks and come out of it and try again. If success is about straight paths, this wouldn't matter, but being cautious and neurotic would be beneficial. But success never is a straight line. It dips, and rebounds, and dips again and rebound again. Every day you will get both good news about your actions, and bad news about some other actions. It is your talent to see both of them as opportunities and turn them into your favor that matters. It is a foolish belief that you can come out of alive from the shit that you're in. So become a fool everyday by testing your every hypothesis about success. A fool : https://unsplash.com/@julio_klinger Be a fool more than others Imagine you want to become a poet an artist or a mathematician. What you do? I am sure there is a plan, in back of your mind, which you never put to test. It has been just a plan. Now its time to work. Get a pen and paper and start writing down the steps. And test your plan by doing it. Now, its guaranteed it is going to fail. How do I know that? It's because I know you haven't tried before. You do not know the bitter taste of the failure. Before you taste anything closer to a success, you need to taste the failure. Otherwise, what are you going to compare it with? If everyone becomes successful in their first attempt, there will be no failures, and there will be nothing called success. Let's give it a number. Are you willing to create another hypothesis, another action plan, once your first one fails? Are you willing to do it thousand times over? These are mandatory iterations. Before you hit something sparkling, you will have to dig through a lot of mud. There is no time for regrets. It is just a mechanical job without emotional attachment to outcome. So, are you willing to be a fool more than others? What is the worse could happen if you try? Now think about what could happen after you have been fooled yourself with false paths to success after 1000 iterations of your action plan. What could happen? You will be bankrupt and labelled as a failure. But your soul would not be broken at the end of 80 years of failure. You will be proud that you have tried and failed. At least you would know there is no luck in your bank account. You will have a load of experience and 1 more hypothesis that you can put to test, which doesn't need any resources. A life which you have spent experimentation. And you would have arrived at many truths that an ordinary man who has never had 1000 iterations of failures. And you will be dead at age 81 after your 1001 failed attempt at life. Now here is a truth I know. Everyone will be dead before 10 decades. Even the ones who have 0 failures and even ones who had been successful. So, life is not about success or failure when it concludes. Then, there is no problem failing 1000 times as nothing will be lost or gained. I am prepared to be fooled. This is 700th post on this blog. Another failed attempt at success. Do you think this will ever stop? You know the answer, and you know why it won't by now. Because there would be nothing better, I would be doing other than trying one more time. It's an enormous pleasure to be fooled again by life.

Life of a firefighter - 9/11 firefighters Life of a firefighter is not an easy one. When I used to go to school, I happened to walk by the fire department. Almost every day the fire trucks were parked, neatly, washed and polished just like the day before. I wondered a fire is ever going to break up, or is this the least busy job in the world? How many times a fire breaks up so, these trucks need movement. What were they doing? eating cheese sandwiches watching movies with buddies? These were all legitimate questions I had in mind, until I got to know how dangerous and risky their job is. They are one of the first people to respond when there is an emergency of sort. They carry out rescue missions in admis of chaos of a catastrophe when human lives are at risk. Consider this, would you go into a collapsing building which continuously burning above you to rescue some unknown people? Well, if that is called bravery, it is number 1 on the list of duties of a firefighter. There is a reason why they are called "Fighters". Firefighter : https://unsplash.com/@randyfath Being brave is only one lesson they teach us about life. It is only with gratitude that I can talk about their actions of valor. During the 9/11 incident when everyone was running away from the burning twin towers, they were the first to enter it. From the total of 2977 died during tower collapse, 343 members were from NY fire department. As 1000 members were deployed that day, the fatality rate was 33%. If we put it into context, that is about the same fatality rate of deadliest mountain climbing, Annapoorna in Himalayan range 8thousander. But less spoken is the number of lives saved that day. Staggering number of 25000 lives were saved, assisted by firefighters and police. So, yes firefighters are real heroes, as they put their own lives at risk to save others. Breakdown protocols. So, how do they work under chaotic, limited resource catastrophic events. How do they function when everyone else is panicking? What lessons do they teach us about breakdown protocols? During the days of relative calm, they do practice their respond protocols. They keep their equipment checked; they do practice drills in simulated environments and follow the command structure. Over time vigorously check loopholes of their protocols. And when actual fire happens, the responses are mostly automatic, at least for the initial part of it. Room for adapting the rescue mission according to the rapidly changing circumstances is inherent part of their protocols, as they have to balance, rescue missions and fighting fires, during an actual fire. I am sure I will not be a firefighter. So, maybe you. If you're, congratulations on your bravery. However, if you want to learn about making a breakdown protocol for any mission, these are the examples you might read about. Because in life failure is guaranteed, a breakdown protocol is warranted in any scenario. Sometimes it is too late when it happens, to take action. Sometimes actions need to be planned ahead of time, maybe decades before you fall sick, breakout a fire at your property or even in a financial loss. Prevention of loss and coming back routine should be a part of any system you are making. Have you ever thought about it? Have you ever thought about what would be your response when you fall sick, when you are no longer able to walk on your own and confined to the bed? Even if you live a perfectly healthy life this would eventually happen. Have you ever thought what your response would be when your part of the town gets the next seasonal flood? Did you think twice before buying a permanent land on this flood prone area? Have you thought about your morning routine, when you are too tired to wake up early tomorrow? Have you thought what you would do after a long night partying and getting boozed with friends? Have you thought about when your nice relationship ends in divorce and you have to battle for the custody of children? Is there a way to avoid that? Is there a backup plan? If you haven't it is time to do that in this relatively peaceful decade of your life. As the seas are always exceptionally calm before a disaster, always. Ask a firefighter If you distrust me.

Lily white was playing badminton in the garden with her sister Rosy Red. After a while they got tired and then were bored and were seen lying down on the grass, under a tree. Obviously, they were looking at the sky. "Sky is pretty nice today". Lily said to her sister. "Look, that cloud is just like a giraffe!" her sister exclaimed! "Oh, we should play the cloud game". Lily said. It was one of their favorite games. Just looking at clouds and making imaginary figures. It was exciting as; nobody knew what would come up next in the sky. Clouds In the sky So, for next half an hour, they were seen giggling under the tree looking at clouds. Wasn't it a wonderful game? By the time their mom called them for the afternoon tea, they did not feel tired at all. And Lily was seen thinking, while she was having her bread. "What is it, Lily? What are you thinking about?" Mother asked. "Oh, mom, I was wondering how the clouds are made?" "That's easy, when the sun heats everything during the day, water gets boiled and become tiny droplets and rise in the sky. And when they cool, they make clouds" Her mother explained. "So, if I touch a cloud, I will feel water?" "I guess it is correct, but you wouldn't be able to touch a cloud, when up close it would just look like mist" "Oooow.. I see, the mist, a cloud is like a mist in the sky" Lily white was happy with the answer, only for a while. Her mind was always wondering like a puppy let lose in a park. She couldn't stop being curious. So, she asked. "Is everything made out of something?" "What are you thinking now Lily?" "I don't know, I was wondering, if clouds are made out of water droplets, and if water is made out of atoms, what makes atoms? And what makes what makes atoms? Is there an end to it?" "Oh, poor lily, you are actually correct, everything is made out of something, and there is no end to it. I am sure you will learn a lot in science class." "Guess I should be a scientist then" Her mother was seen smiling to herself, when they both left for their study. And she heard Rosy Red asking, "Who is a scientist?" And before bed, Lily made an entry in her diary, which read like this. "Today we played the cloud game, and I was wondering what clouds are made of. Apparently, they are made of water, like mist. And everything is made out of something else. I wonder there is a thing, which is made out of nothing? maybe I will ask a scientist when I meet one"

I was a moss, dwelled on a bark of an old oak. Which stood against the despicable weather of four seasons year around in countryside Living in isolation on a remote corner of a corner's garden. Unmoved, untouched, unspoiled except grazed by Slippery snails at night. I liked the morning dew which I collected at dawn. Before it disappeared when sunbeams across me shone. And I was in love with a black hole. Would you believe it? They called me the crazy moss, the ferns my friends Boy, they laughed at my timid fragile voice And gay smile that I tried to hide. Once in a while when the Sky cleared of clouds. I would stare into the hollow darkness of the night. I would see the black hole in the corner of the universe. Oh. so pretty it was her smile. Her dark countenance allured me with vigor. Her sweet voice which did not escape her own gravity ruminated in my mind. As I wished to drift with earth Fall into her at once and for all Like a moth, falling into a candlelight. Call it madness, call it love It's better than being a moss on a tree unloved. Or falling for the stars, I despise their blue light. I never will speak about it in public My outlawed love of life Moss I would be Moss I would die. But a moss I was in love with a black hole though it's futile. --end of poem -- The Moss

Into the Woods Izzy and Nizzi Once upon a time, there was a mother with two twins. Their names were Izzy and Nizzi. One sunny day Izzy and Nizzi asked their mother if they go to the woods to collect honey for pancakes. Mother said, "Of course girls but be careful!" So, Izzy and Nizzy set off. They met many cheerful animals on their way. Rabbits Squirrels and a fox with three cubs! A rare sight it was. Deep in the jungle it was a little dark. And they walked in silence looking for beehives. “Remember that last Saturday we watched a scary movie where one twin disappears without the other twin noticing?” “I’m scared if it happens to us,” said Izzy. She turned around but Nizzi wasn’t there. “Nizzi? Oh no! Oh no!” What am I going to tell mom! Where is Nizzi! Do you know what happened to her?

Lily white was late for the school. Yes, she did wake up early in the morning, yes, she did brush without falling asleep and she did prepare her bag before going to bed last night. Yet somethings happened and she was just late again, so she stepped out of the home following her father with her pretty little umbrella as there was a drizzle this morning. "Lily You are wearing your shoes on wrong side" Her father exclaimed! and then only she looked at her feet. And he was spot on! she had been wearing her shoes on wrong foot. "Oh, how come I am so stupid! this is going to make me late" She was uttering while trying to exchange her shoes in a hurry. Hmm... what did you say while you were tying shoes? Her father asked when she stepped in the car. He seemed having a serious thought and Lilly was puzzled. So, she took a moment and realized he was asking about her stupid thing. Wrong shoes "Oh father, I said I am so stupid, to wear the shoes on the wrong foot. And this is not the first time." Hmm. her father exclaimed. I agree what you did was stupid, but I cannot agree you are stupid. Nobody is stupid. "What do you mean nobody is stupid?" Were you stupid when you woke up early this morning? No, I wasn't. I was lazy not stupid. Were you stupid when you brushed your teeth? No father, I was only sleepy when I was brushing. Were you stupid when you prepared your books and bags last night? And got ready for bed? NO FATHER! I wasn't stupid. I was smart doing that! There you go. Problem solved Lily. I don't want you to say you are stupid when you do something stupid next time. Well, what I can say? Instead? "You can say, oh... what a stupid thing I did, I put my shoes on wrong side again! I know I am smart but sometimes I do silly things." It made Lily white smile. What a nice way to treat myself. I don't have to feel I am stupid each and every time I do a silly thing. Hmm... what silly things Have I done lately? She wanted to write all the silly things she and Rosy Red did all this year! So, this was a list found in her diary. Silly Things done by Lily White Today I tried to catch a bird. I ran after it as fast as I could, but the bird was much faster than me. I hid under my blanket because I thought nobody could see me. Then Mum asked, “Where are you?” and I started laughing. I put my shoes on the wrong feet. I walked around like that for a long time before I noticed. I asked Dad where the moon goes during the day. He explained it to me, but I still think the moon might be hiding somewhere. I tried to dig a hole all the way to the other side of the Earth. I stopped when my hands got tired. I talked to my teddy bear for nearly an hour. He didn't say anything, but I think he was listening. I put a bucket on my head and pretended I was a space explorer. I ran away from a wave at the beach because I thought it was going to catch me. Then I ran back and did it again. I ate something Mum told me not to eat just because I wanted to know what would happen. Nothing happened. It just tasted horrible. I made a tower with all my blocks. It took me ages. Then I knocked it down in about three seconds. I gave my teddy bear a new name: Sir Fluffy Thunder. I wore a towel around my neck and became Super Girl. I tried to fly from the sofa. Luckily, Super Girl landed safely. I asked Mum a question and then asked “Why?” about her answer. I kept asking why until she told me I was asking too many questions. I played “the floor is lava” and jumped from the sofa to the chair. I almost forgot that the floor was not actually lava. I made a magic potion from water, leaves, grass and some mud. It looked disgusting but I thought it was amazing. I tried to stay awake all night. I told myself I wasn't tired. Then I fell asleep before I even finished talking. I drew a picture of our house. It looked nothing like our house, but I told Mum it was a very special kind of house. I put some random things into a box because I thought I might need them one day. I don't know what I will need them for. I built a fort from bedsheets and pillows. I told everyone they needed a special password to come inside. I laughed for five minutes because my brother said the word “underpants.” I told Mum I would go to bed for only five minutes. Somehow, it became morning. I walked backwards around the house because I thought it was fun. I bumped into a chair. I tried to talk to the cat by meowing. The cat looked at me like I was crazy. I put my toy in the refrigerator because I thought it might enjoy being cold. Mum found it and wasn't very impressed. I stood behind a curtain and thought I was invisible. Everyone could see my feet. I made myself a superhero name. Today I was Captain Sparkle. I made a very serious plan to avoid eating my vegetables. Unfortunately, Mum discovered the plan. I tried to teach my teddy bear how to dance. He wasn't very good at it. I put a blanket over my head and walked around pretending I was a ghost. My brother screamed, and then I laughed so much I fell over. I asked Dad a very important question: “If fish live in water, do they ever get thirsty?”

Why you should write your own biography. Why not? Why you should not write about your biography? When I put myself in your skin, with my mind I can see that your life must be filled with different experiences than mine. Some good some bad, some inspiring some tragic. Whatever it may be If I am a novelist, it would be material for a character in my Moby Dick. So why not? I have no reason to give. Nobody is going to write it for you. What are the odd, you are rich and famous so you can hire, an official biography writer to follow you all around the town and write about your grocery shopping and travel to work. Nope, the fact that you are reading now is evidence for that not happening. So if it is a biography, it should be an autobiography. You will have to do your own. Moby Dick Your life is significant to few people. Think about it. Although you are not famous your story is significant to everyone in the immediate associate circle of yours, meaning friends and family. They look up to you, they depend on you, and you depend on them. For these people you're the famous person in their lives. How relatively small a circle that would be, still your ideas, and views matter to them. Although ignorant today, if will in the future when there is loss. Hence, write it for them if not for you. Human thoughts are valuable. One of the most and only valuable thing is human thoughts. This I do not have to explain as there are many more articles on value in this blog such as this. However, if you're not into journals, autobiography would be a place where, you can write all your life philosophy into. So it becomes the part of the general human knowledge. Do not worry nobody cares. Value of human thought is not immediately apparent most of the time. It is apparent only when it becomes necessary as a real human problem. The problems may not exist now, today. But eventually they will and your biography can be the solution to save some million lives and change the course of the universe. understand your own journey. Your journey when you look back from the comfort of the couch may feel chaotic and haphazard and even bizarre. The narrative which goes inside your head all day, makes edits to it day after day, without you even knowing. Making sense of this journey happens when you look back only. Life makes sense only when you look back at it. Trust me it does makes more sense when it is on paper, when in written format. To see the change. When things are in chronological order, the time you take to write the autobiography will eventually change your identity. Your current identity as a middle-aged man was not the one prevailed in the past. The ideals about the future have changed over time from a young man with expectations, to a middleman for survival and understanding. You might have quit smoking, and drinking, to feel a little healthy on your decaying body. These things are real human problems associated with change. Notice when you start writing, it leaves opportunity to observe the changing life To remember what happened Human memory is notoriously unreliable. At one moment you will have a thought, and it will be forgotten forever, in the next moment. At one moment you would be sad, and without even you are knowing it, will change into jealousy and happiness in the afternoon. Unless you think backwards into your day, and week and months, years and decades. Unless you write them down, your beautiful thoughts, you will have a very short story, which you say to yourself right now. Which can be utterly wrong when taken as a whole. So, write it down and see how surprisingly strange to come back to your past self 10 years in the future. To discover a personal philosophy Life is a struggle. I am sure you have gone through some critical points in your life where you just went from believing in one philosophy to another. At one time, you thought it's all about studying hard and getting a good career. Another time, it wasn't enough, you looked at family life and thought that would make you happy and content. In another time you thought, well nothing matters, past or future, only what is happening now is what is there to it. But where is now? How can I make sense of it if not for the past and future. These may seem obvious stupid village philosophers' questions. But if you read a little bit of any philosopher, you will see, they also followed same thought pattern. why your own biography is unique Your story is unique. I haven't lived through yours. It deserves to be written. Do you know how difficult it was for an ordinary man born in 100 ACE to write about their lives. For one thing the literacy rate wasn't good. And the stationary material was hard to find. Today it is very easy, you can write down your unique experience in a blog, in paper, or even in a vlog. Yes, all the boring stuff that you do make sense. Do not everyone else to go "Woooow..." when you say what you have to say. As long as it matters to you it doesn't matter what others think. Mistakes and achievements Your mistakes and achievements both deserve mentions in your autobiography. Mistakes as you can look back and organize your system, so they do not recur in the future. They function as learning points. Achievement as you often forget that you ever had them in a short period of days to weeks. But when Saturday afternoon, when you sit at your desk to write your own autobiography you will realize, the life you have lived is not bad at all. It's just you forgot to celebrate your small wins and praise yourself. No harm done with a little bit of ego if it makes you smile for a while, while nobody is watching. How are you going to write your autobiography. Set aside a time and a place, and a book, pen and paper. Keep them ready easily visible and available on your working table where you often come and sit. Fantasize about what you are going to write, during normal working hours. Start from somewhere before you sleep. Start about one day four decades ago, where you woke up in the morning after your older siblings who happened to be nowhere to found. Talk about the strange tumult of squirrels which woke you up from your comfortable baby sleep. Talk about the little bag of Jambu, (a tropical fruit) that your brother and sister kept by your bed a simple act of love that you never told them about that you still remember. Maybe they deserve to hear that you still value their childish acts of kindness, which filled your heart with human compassion all these years. Maybe it is time to give them a call. There is no hard and fast rule where you write. What you write and in which device. As long as you add a little story day after day, until it shapes into something which you will be proud of in a decade. Think about it as a project for a decade, not something to be finished in months.

Jim Rhon philosophy of working on yourself. If you are into self-development and generating wealth, you cannot avoid this guy. He is an internet sensation, even after his death in 2009. To be honest I am not a big fan, as his philosophy of getting rich lacks the answers to the fundamental question of why. But as you can see, I write about him as there is some truth, in what he preaches. If you wonder after working hard on your job for decades and you are not wealthy enough to be financially in depended, maybe it is because you worked hard on your job. That will make your employer wealthy, not you. But if you work on yourself, in the same effort and enthusiasm, over the course of same decades, you could have been wealthy. At least had a chance of being, at least changed the odds of being in the future. So, when he preaches "Work hard on yourself, if you want to build a fortune." I cannot disagree. As fundamentally, what would grow is what you work hard on. Then he would give a list of things for you to work hard, on. Like a list of goals, building habits, choosing your friends carefully to orchestrate your development, etc., etc. But this is really hard. Sometimes, no matter how much willpower there is you might not be able to get out of the bed to live your dream life, where you work on yourself before the sunrise. Maybe our souls are too much broken by smartphones and toxic work environments that we work like zombies. Anything? Let's put a why and how to Jim Rhon philosophy First why? Why should you work on yourself and build a fortune. Odds are if you work on yourself still you might not be rich. As life is a really twisted affair with uncountable number of reasons and paths. Tiny things which happen today is going to change your future forever. Like little things like waking up 5 minutes late will push you into an alternate universe with a different reality than current. Fact is nobody knows about future. But from looking at the patterns we can conclude, our happiness depends on the thoughts we are getting through the day. Although we are unable to change the circumstances, the belief of you can change, can actually change your pattern of thoughts. If done correctly you might be able to live a fulfilled happy and ordinary life. I say you should pursue this as only as it is what we desire. Do not ask me why we have desire in the first place, and what happens if we do not pursue any desire. That is entirely for the people who wants to disappear themselves from life. To live an ordinary life, and ordinary problems that is not necessary. How you are going to do that is very easy. I have written so many self-help articles in this blog. About tiny steps you can take, like reading, and meditation, and creating a dopamine detox. However, it is not that one tiny thing which is going to change your life miraculously tomorrow. But I would say that a comprehensive system, which is deliberately created by yourself, personally would be able to do that. This system you create to achieve your goal, should include every foreseeable trouble, and possible solutions. Every tiny action which lead to another outcome which eventually support your goal. Basically, you are going to reverse engineer your goal with a pen and paper, and put down everything, so there is no flaw. Just like a software engineer creating a complex program to safely handle cash at an ATM, or an architect building a plan for a skyscraper, taking into account all the wind, weight and material factors, so it doesn't collapse for 500 more years. This I can assure you is humanly possible. You can use a simple 9x9 mandala chart if your thoughts are just scattered and chaotic. Try this for a 1 goal you are repeatedly failing to achieve and comment me your progress.

Forever teledramas and infinite novels When I was young, I listened to teledramas on some boring family affairs. Falling in love, relationships, family disputes etc. These teledramas were long, sometimes aired for years. While the beginning is played, they did not even know about the complete plot, as there would be major plot twists once in a while throughout the year. I call them forever teledramas. After some time, even these forever teledramas would end. They would no longer suite the public, who change over time and once audience start to disappear, they give them an unexpected quick ending like a car crash, killing both the lovers. To be honest, there is nothing called an infinite novel. Nobody has written one. If you know anything even comes closer to an infinite novel, please do tell me I will include it here. But in that sense blogs and podcasts seems to be infinite. Just like teledramas these are only apparently infinite, no blog will run forever. No podcast will run forever, when the creative crew disappear the podcast will dissolve. So, is co-operate business. We like to buy a stock which forever increase in price. Some really have lasted longer than a full human life generating income for many. But as everything else, these infinite businesses will start to decline. Unless the CEOs are aware of these phenomena, they might just make them bankrupt, without letting them die peacefully by dissolving company assets. Endings Closures viewed as new beginnings - importance of endings Remember the quote "when one door closes, another opens?" So, nothing is bad in life, dropping out of school, ending a career, ending a relationship. It is just what we chose to view this after that thing happened. Are we willing to consider the last decade of life as a learning experience and move forward in this decade of life? Or Am I just doing same old tricks same old ways and never in search of new beginnings? perhaps failure just gives you a data point, a realization you would never have if you were successful. Maybe some of things in your life just need you to give an ending, without dwelling in grief, before you move on. Endings are as important as beginnings. What about the end of life? Lately I have been fantasizing of the ending of my life. But I think this is not a new phenomenon. All living beings think about their death, otherwise they would not survive, but some are more neurotic than others, obsessive than others. Throughout the blog you may find death is a frequent topic. But no wonder it is such a huge subject that I cannot cover in a 3-minute article as once I saw a Yale lecture series about 24 in total on "Philosophy of death". What is there so much to talk about it. For an average man it wouldn't even cross their mind death, in a normal day, as it is all automatic routines that govern their movement. Maybe I have extra time, and just circumstances. When I think the death as an ending to something, called life, I can see that meaning of life is only possible with death. If death never occurred and there was continuous awareness unbroken to eternity, there would be no meaning to existence of such. But the nature is clear, every natural atom changes its composure over time, hence anything built from atoms must decay and die. To me importance of life hides in my death.

Moral ambitions You might have moral ambitions towards society and others. If you're working in education, you might want to improve literacy and build a better system of education for future generation (maybe put some professors in kindergarten). If you work in finance, you will utilize financial instruments to generate wealth which can be used to improve public health and human condition. If you are a millionaire, you might want to become a billionaire to become a philanthropist at your retirement. However, when it comes to your day-to-day conduct as a human being, these moral ambitions may seem to be distant and impossible, "Nice to have things" in your life. And somebody might call it hypocrisy. Hypocrisy. Hypocrisy is easier to notice. In simple terms, it means you're a Lier with regard to what you say and do, but in better and acceptable way. Eg: You expect people around you to be generous, but you do not give away a penny. You expect and ask children to not to use phones, but you are addicted to screens, most of the day you spend time in doom scrolling. You might say that it is better to communicate openly, yet you hide things from your partner. You say money is not important but gets a heart attack when a part of your fortune is lost during a financial crisis. Histological slide. Hypocrisy is normal and Moral ambitions are mostly platonic. I do not want to completely break the illusion for you saying, "All Moral ambitions are platonic, and we all are hypocrites" But reality is very close to this. Is this our fault? Did not our teachers' parents and religious leaders, teach us the importance of moral ambition and our values? and they themselves were hypocrites? How often we see, teachers getting caught having affairs with their students. Judges and police officers getting arrested for DUI? Doctors getting financial and other benefits from pharmaceutical industry? Why do you think this happens? Can we really live a life that preached on the altar with a pure soul? If so, what is the way? Why moral ambition and hypocrisy clash with each other? Hypocrisy it seems driven by the selfishness, and indeed survival of individual is at its core. Moral ambition on the other hand is the means to the survival of the tribe. If we consider the modern society as such, we can say, the moral ambition has led us to better survive as individuals. But, only in thriving society that moral ambition has a fertile ground to grow. If the survival of the tribe is threatened, we will see the hypocrisy taking over. And individuals will start to act only on behalf of their survival. But consider the dilemma. The survival of the individual is the survival of the tribe. It seems changing personal values according to the situation is the one which keeps some of us alive in times of drought. This is more commonly seen in the nature, when the weaker offspring often led to starvation and elimination. If a cub cannot survive its crib, how can it supposed to survive in the harsh environment. You can argue that ours is not natural, and ours is human, and we are fundamentally different from all the rest of animals. Maybe we all are wrong. I saw a group of scientists, who teach how to detect breast cancer to a group of pigeons (histopathological diagnosis). Surprisingly, when taken as a cohort pigeons did it in the accuracy of 99%, which is the same as a qualified human pathologist. Maybe we are not very different from all the other animals, but just with a slight edge. Yet majority of our animal instincts are still there. So, I do not blame when my friend becomes hypocritic and break his own rules. Maybe tell a little lie here and there. It just proves, his inner animal is at work, high jacking the senile part of the brain instead the neo-cortex. Nothing else. And same applies to me.

Tragic of Jack - the Crow and the carcass story Once upon a time there was a crow. Who happened to be starving from the previous day, it was searching for food from early morning. And on its way saw an elephant's carcass, floating on the river. Half eaten by animals, yet plenty of meat left, the crow landed on the carcass and started eating it. Soon there were other crows. They all were having a nice breakfast feast. However, the Elephant was so huge, that there was enough meat for everyone. When the other crows left, the first one still stayed. Let's call him Jack. Now, Jack, the crow felt a little greedy. Why should I go anywhere else? It is safe to be on the carcass, floating on the river, I do not have to go looking for a lunch. I can have lunch here itself. So, it did. Without leaving the carcass, it had lunch, a dinner and even a little bit of nap at night. Following morning, all his friends returned, and Jack was feeling proud about himself. Like he has found a good Niche, if he was a blogger! So, he boasted about how nice it was to be on the carcass, overnight and all his friends nodded in agreement without confronting him, like all friends do. Now reassured by his colleagues the crow had a new identity. Jack was now not just Jack, he was "Smart a** Jack living on the Elephant carcass". And you can guess the rest of the story. After few days of new success in a row, obvious happened. The elephant carcass slowly drifted into the sea. Still some crows came for a visit, land was visible on a distance. Jack had plenty of time to save himself from his impending doom. But, Jack was fond of his new identity that he stayed. Until land was not visible, and the elephant carcass slowly begin to sink in the sea water. By this time Jack was heavy, sad and depressed. He could not fly far away back to the land and ended up dead, collapsing halfway to the beach. That, concludes the Jack and carcass story. Jack the crow Take home message There are plenty of messages in the story, such as, listen to your friends carefully, they might mean no harm but, their opinions are subjective too. And the one who confronts is not always the enemy as, that is the way the world responds. How about not being greedy with your identity as it is always dynamic. Your identity changes with your age, your friends, things you eat, like in the case of Jack. Good times will never last every day, and better be prepared and foresee rainy days, so you're absolutely ready when the luck runs out. But, the one I want to emphasize is about "Create a ceiling to your habits". Do not try to eat your carcass, day in and day out neglecting everything else in your life. It could be your work, your relationship, your mental health, your blog, that you're working on. Just know the carcass is going to sink with or without your help one day. So, holding onto them tight will definitely is not a wise choice. I am not asking you to take a bite when it is floating. Just define where you will stop. Otherwise, thing you thought was a fun thing to do eventually will consume you. In practice you can chose a stop condition to everything you do. You stop at 1000 dollars in your monthly spending, you stop at 500 words in your daily writing, you stop at 1 hour Netflix even on a holiday, you stop exercise at 30 minutes even if you feel like doing more. Just like minimums that you do on a bad day, maximums will help you balance and discipline and not to get attached too much with your daily carcasses like Jack did. Let's remember Jack everyday with gratitude.