Maybe you are in the process of building a house. A shed or anything. And you feel tired, waiting for it to finish fully until you become happy.
Maybe you are walking across America 3000 miles, and you await to see the California sea, to be happy.
Maybe you are awaiting a response from your latest interview, maybe you are awaiting to Graduate to become fully happy.
Maybe you are awaiting your marriage next year, or expecting a baby, to become fully happy.
How to not let go?
As we all have aspirations, goals for future, often we deny ourselves our own happiness until we break up in tears of the stress and pressure of those aspirations. It happened to me countless times in the past. Until I saw one grey hair in twenties becoming hundreds of them in thirties. I have denied myself happiness. Happiness of this moment.
Not only when I look at the goals of the future, but goals of the day also come into play. I deny myself happiness until I send that email, finish my days tasks. Until I write a blog post, I deny myself a cup of tea. I deny myself pleasure of feeling food in my mouth as I am overwhelmingly thinking about tomorrow. I seek a calmness in meditation yet forget to observe the wondering mind now. I seek a silence in the moment of sounds of the sea, or disturbing cry of a baby in an airplane. I forget to appreciate the secret to not to fall, is to understand the wave.
Riding the Waves of life.
Just the other day, I saw a surfer riding a wave. That was not a small four foot wave. It was massive. It was seven or eight stories high. Maybe even more. And compared to this massive waves the man looked tiny. He looked like an ant in a basin. What does he possess more than me to do a thing of that brave? I am sure you have seen, such a ride. And I am sure he was afraid of death at first, when he rode small waves when he was young. Now at the prime of his surfing, he has overcome his own fear of death to ride a massive wave even someone on a ship would not approach.
If you know you have ridden a bicycle, for that matter any vehicle. We grabbed the wheel with all the force, as we were afraid of crashing. And only after doing it so many times, we have learned, that art is not to grab the wheel tight, but very light, let it go otherwise, just show the direction when it needs correction.
Riding waves of life - Poem WFozStories.
When the going gets rough
and there’s an overwhelming feeling
of being bogged down
in worldly stuff
it helps to remember
in the end, none of it matters.
And the best shot way
is to hang ten
and be brave enough to let go
and ride the wave
through the feelings
of a life in tatters.
The art of letting go
When we grab onto life in fear, we tend to suffer more. We get stressed more. And if we grab each and every wave of life with fear, we will never learn to ride a massive wave of life. And from time to time, they will come for everyone. It can come as a breakup of a relationship. It can come as a loss of a job, or a loss of a pound of flesh. Unless we let go of the fear of life, we would not know how to respond this kind of surprises of life. And if even letting go of little fear of life is difficult, how can I expect myself from letting go of inevitable?
So, I say to myself,
It is ok to get angry.
It is ok to get disturbed by the Noice.
It is ok to wake up to a cold day, or a little bit of rain.
It is ok to spend a day with boredom
It is ok to not to be creative but dumb.
It is ok to do a math wrong
It is ok to live in a half a build house
It is ok to never be in a car or drive a broken one
It is ok to have a cold
It is ok to listen to a song
It is ok to feel sad or bad about myself
It is ok to be fat or thin
It is ok to want or not want
It is ok to feel sad
It is ok to die, be afraid of death
As long as I learn How to let go
It is ok to be as you are.
Letting Go of fear is letting go of everything. Letting go of fear happens, when we understand the valuelessness of fear.
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